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Memphis, TN Divorce Consultations: What You Need To Do To Prepare

When you’re facing the possibility of divorce, it’s natural to feel unsure of what steps to take next. But one thing is certain: your first consultation with a divorce attorney can bring a sense of direction and control back into your hands, especially if you’re prepared.

We know this meeting is more than just paperwork. It’s your chance to be heard, to get honest answers, and to start building a plan that protects you, your family, and your future. Whether you’re still deciding or ready to move forward, here’s how to get the most out of your initial divorce consultation.

Why the First Meeting Matters

Your consultation sets the tone for the rest of your case. It’s an opportunity to:

  • Ask questions and share your concerns

  • Learn about your rights and responsibilities

  • Begin strategizing with a legal team who will advocate for your best interests

  • Gain clarity on what divorce could look like for you

Think of it as a planning session with someone who knows the road ahead, and will walk it with you.

What to Bring to Your Divorce Consultation

You don’t need to show up with your entire life in a binder, but bringing the right documents helps your attorney provide accurate advice from day one.

Here’s a checklist of items that can be helpful:

✅ Basic Information

  • Your full name, address, and contact details

  • Your spouse’s name and contact information

  • Marriage certificate (if available)

  • Any prior legal documents, including prenuptial or postnuptial agreements

✅ Financial Documents

  • Recent pay stubs for both you and your spouse

  • Tax returns from the past 2–3 years

  • Bank account and investment statements

  • Retirement account summaries (401k, IRA, pension)

  • Mortgage, loan, or credit card account balances

  • Any information about shared businesses, trusts, or inheritance

✅ Family & Custody Information

  • Names and birthdates of any children

  • School and medical information

  • Existing custody arrangements (if separated)

  • Notes on parenting concerns or goals

Don’t worry if you don’t have all of this right now. An attorney can help you gather what’s needed, but the more context they have early on, the more tailored your strategy can be.

Questions You May Want to Ask

You don’t have to come in with all the answers, just your questions. This is your time to get the truth and support. Here are some examples:

  • What are my options for custody or visitation?

  • Will I need to pay or receive alimony?

  • What happens to our home, vehicles, and other shared property?

  • How long does divorce typically take in Tennessee?

  • What should I avoid doing right now that could impact my case?

  • What are your fees, and how do payment plans work?

A good attorney won’t just explain the law—they’ll explain your choices in plain language and help you understand the next steps.

How to Mentally Prepare for the Conversation

A divorce consultation can bring up a lot of emotions—fear, sadness, relief, even guilt. That’s completely normal. A divorce attorney isn’t just there to review your finances and paperwork, they’re there to listen, support, and advocate for your well-being.

Here are a few ways to prepare emotionally and mentally:

  • Take a deep breath. You’re not committing to anything at this meeting. You’re just gathering information.

  • Write things down. Jot down questions or concerns ahead of time so you don’t forget in the moment.

  • Bring a friend or support person, if needed. You don’t have to do this alone.

  • Be honest. The more open you can be about your situation, the better advice we can give.

What Happens After the Consultation?

By the end of your consultation, you’ll have a clear understanding of your legal options, an outline of next steps, and a team ready to stand with you if you choose to move forward.

If you decide to keep the firm you chose, they’ll begin gathering additional documents, filing paperwork as needed, and setting up communication channels to keep you updated through every step.

You Don’t Have to Do This Alone

We don’t see you as a case number. We see you as a person who needs both strong advocacy and steady guidance. Our mission is to provide both.

Whether your situation is simple or complex, we’re here to protect your interests, keep your family’s well-being front and center, and make sure no one walks this journey alone.

Let’s Take the First Step Together.

If you're considering divorce or have already been served papers, now is the time to get answers and protect your future.

Schedule your confidential consultation with us today.

Psonya Hackett